The Deceit of Anger

We all get angry. Things upset us. We are easily frustrated when days do not go according to plan. I see this in Adah when she can’t get a toy to perform the way she desires or when a piece just will not fit in her puzzle. Annoyance. Frustration. Such occurrences are part of our daily lives.

The Bible draws a great deal of attention to anger. Some anger is righteous and some is unrighteous. More than often, ours is unrighteous because we are sinners. My question is this: what do we do with anger? What happens if it grows? What do we do when frustration at a puzzle turns into a puzzle piece flying across the room? How do we respond?

The other day, our phone had no dial tone. And, we had no computer. Our car was having trouble. I was a little annoyed. There was a moment I felt like Adah, and I just wanted to throw something across the room. What was going on in my heart?

Let’s face it: whether big or small instances, we all get angry. It is moments like this when I say to Adah in her trial, “Love, we do not throw our toys. Many people put time and energy into making these for us. We need to be considerate and respectful of our toys. I understand you’re angry. Sometimes it’s hard when our toys don’t do what we want them to, but that’s ok. That’s why we keep trying and be patient. Let’s ask Jesus to help us be patient in this situation. Let’s confess we’re angry and want to act in a way that will honor Him. Let’s ask for His help.”

God similarly reminded my heart of this when I was angry at our situation. I needed His help, and praise God that His grace is so good, so gentle and abounding. He truly does provide an escape from sin, as we seek and submit ourselves to Him.

I know what you’re thinking: “Jocelyn, if that the height of your anger issues, you’ve got it easy.” Ha. The point is not who has faced more that entitles one to anger. The beauty of this message is this: the Bible assures us that there’s a way out; we don’t need to live a life of anger and bitterness. God calls us to so much more. Grace and peace can be prominent in our trials. We can trust in a God who is in control even when nothing seems to be in our lives.

It’s easy to feel like God is far from us when we struggle. Does he really care that my phone has no dial tone? If I believe He controls and governs all things, I should seek Him for what He may be trying to teach me through the trial. Furthermore, how can I honor Him through it? When I get to the root of my anger, it is often grounded in fear and lack of confidence in God’s ability to handle the situation. Don’t be deceived to think that all anger is justified, or even that if it’s “justified” we’re supposed to remain in it. Don’t believe the lie that it entitles us to treat objects, or more importantly individuals poorly or disrespectfully. This is not love and such actions (which originate in the heart) grieve the Holy Spirit. We need to confess such things and receive forgiveness. God is faithful to forgive and purify us. (1 John 1:9)

I don’t want sin to take root in my heart, or in the hearts of my family. In the moment it peaks, we want to seek Christ for help to turn to Him in obedience. We want to put aside anger and be renewed in the knowledge of Christ. God is teaching us endurance through trials, and that’s what we love to sing of together: God is faithful in all things. Trials are purposeful and lead to wisdom. How foolish we would be to miss this by letting anger have its way. God desires that we give thanks in everything and that we do it all without grumbling or complaining. How do we do this: by His grace and through His strength. We can’t do it on our own. We need Him so desperately. Thank you, God! You are so very good to us!

“But now put away and rid yourselves [completely] of all these things: anger, rage, bad feeling toward others, curses and slander, and foulmouthed abuse and shameful utterances from your lips. Clothe yourselves therefore, as God's own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper]. Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]. And above all these [put on] love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together completely in ideal harmony]. And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ's] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always]. Let the word [spoken by] Christ (the Messiah) have its home [in your hearts and minds] and dwell in you in [all its] richness, as you teach and admonish and train one another in all insight and intelligence and wisdom [in spiritual things, and as you sing] psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, making melody to God with [His] grace in your hearts. And whatever you do [no matter what it is] in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus and in [dependence upon] His Person, giving praise to God the Father through Him.”~Colossians 3:8, 12-17 (Amplified Bible)